Are You Still Waiting to be Chosen?
To Make Bold New Choices or To Let Life Make Choices For You is the question!
Dear Reader,
I am sitting in front of a blank page wondering what to write for you all. I had a cup of cappuccino while staring at the screen. I also finished a full bowl of pasta as I stared, with my mind rummaging from ideas.
My problem remained unresolved. There’s still no single topic I could think of to write about. So I started typing nevertheless hoping I would find something to write about along the way.
This is what happens to so many of us in so many different life situations, isn’t it?
People keep procrastinating on starting or promoting their business idea because they keep waiting for the perfect idea and the perfect life circumstances to start the work.
People keep procrastinating on opening the dating app and going out to a date because they keep waiting for the perfect alignment of the stars when they would step out of the house and find their future life-partner standing right in front of their door.
We procrastinate because we demand and accept nothing less than perfection.
We procrastinate because we would rather wait than fail at something, or have something mediocre.
And sometimes, just like this, we keep waiting for an entire lifetime…
I think Covid lockdowns made me too comfortable about waiting. Is it the same for you too? I can stay at my home for days without talking to or meeting anyone. I am comfortable letting life pass by without even working or posting anything on social media, without calling up a friend, except for the regular mandatory phone-calls for folks at home. I am a Writer and a Spiritual, Emotions and Mindset Coach and both the jobs compliment my second nature of being locked up in my home, in my own world.
And yet, one fine day, a couple of years back, I realized the lockdown outside is over, and so it must be over inside my head too. As within, so without. I made it a tick-mark activity for my mental health, to step out to meet a friend at least once a week, or to work from a cafe. And now this has become a habit, a second nature of my being.
So now when I have no one to meet or talk to, I simply go out to a cafe and write from there. That’s what I am doing right now.
There’s a quote in Access Consciousness. It may originally be by Gary or Dain, but I vividly remember Simone posting about it. It says - Are you waiting to be chosen or are you willing to choose?
In love and in business, this quote fits perfectly.
To be honest, it sucks to be the one who makes the choice instead of the one who waits for perfection. When I left my comfortable MNC job, I was filled with an air of hopefulness that made me feel ready to be the one who chooses instead of being the one for whom choices are being made.
But the inner child within us wants to be taken care of and receive everything on a plate. And the adult version of us remembers, that we gotta move some rocks if we wish to move mountains.
As an entrepreneur from 3 years now, it sucks to realize that I am the one who has to think of an idea, create a program, promote it, and also arrange the logistics. Even if I hire help, I would still have to take the initial steps of creating a program. Nobody tells me what to do! It’s both a good and a bad thing actually.
This reminds me of a story B told us in one of the calls where G, in order to trigger him into greatness, said to him that he just wants to be a KEPT. A kept man or woman is someone who doesn’t work and instead given money and a place to live by the person they are in a relationship with. This was not told to offend him or you or anyone but just for one to wake up from the limbo of the lack of decision making.
And so many of times, like it or not, we too simply want to be a kept (barring the relationship part)- to be taken care of by someone else who decides for us, to not use our brains at all, to not take bold steps, to not move mountains.
That’s just the inner child in us.
In accordance with this awareness and my decision to not simply sit passively and let the train of life pass by, I am announcing an online workshop on the 1st of March 2025. It’s a Saturday, and I am going to teach about Money as an Energy from 4pm to 6.30pm. The class price is 5000/- INR. (1000/- INR off if you pay by 31st January 2025). This is where I share stories of financial miracles in my own life, and where I teach you to take intuitive decisions for your business or side hustle, and have ease with money flows. Would you be interested in joining the fun in this workshop and being the one who makes great choices? Or would you want things to simply fall in your lap?
And none of what you answered is wrong BTW. It’s just a choice. ;-)
And just like how this letter got written within 30 minutes without me knowing what I wanted to write about, sometimes, the answer for us, in love and in business is to JUST START.
Take the first step, and the path ahead gets clearer one step after the other.
With Love,
Sanhita Baruah
P.S. Here’s an IG link to my workshop flyer. Mail me at sanhitabaruah@gmail.com with your phone number if you want to get inside this program. Or simply DM me on IG.
P.P.S. New book on Love, Relationships and Dating is out. Did you get your hands on it yet?